Author Topic: Rightsizing 34th Ave for residents of the ave & for different times/seasons  (Read 2803 times)

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Re: Rightsizing 34th Ave for residents of the ave & for different times/seasons
« Reply #15 on: December 09, 2021, 07:24:27 AM »
Hooray for following a post with a reply!

Years ago, on this forum I noticed something. That no-one ever changes their mind. Ever.  No matter how much debate or logic or persuasion by posters. I believe that in the history of the internet, not a single person has been swayed by the arguments of another poster.

It seems to be an immutable law. On the internet, a mind that's made up...stays made up.

This includes politics, open streets, plane noise etc, etc. You name it.

Thank you to this forum for teaching me the important lesson...that it is futile to counter...or even debate... with people online.

Mostly, that only leads to anger from others that their world view is not being upheld.

As this forum comes to a close...I reiterate that this wonderful learning curve, (the forum) has been invaluable. For my future online. Much appreciated to everyone for teaching me.

I have also learned that being online is, however, excellent to giving voice to a person's own opinion. As long as they don't expect  to change others' mindsets. Which I definitely now have much experience in knowing is impossible in an online environment.

And also being very aware that some folks get very mad at you when you don't agree with them.
(Psychologically, somehow, online, their world view is threatened)
 
That being said,

HOORAY for the OPEN STREET OF 34TH AVE. It is the exact right size IMO.

And HOORAY for the life long lessons I have learned on this online forum...which I will take into the future!









« Last Edit: December 09, 2021, 07:46:04 AM by abcdefghijk »

Offline CaptainFlannel

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Re: Rightsizing 34th Ave for residents of the ave & for different times/seasons
« Reply #16 on: December 09, 2021, 09:04:58 AM »
Indeed, this forum post perfectly encapsulates the futility. OP didn't ask "Can anyone please answer why the ave is
closed when it is pitch black out at 7:00 on a cold night?" because OP really wanted an answer for why. OP already knows why. It's just that OP disagrees with the answer, and instead of wanting to come to some kind of understanding other people's POV on the subject, just wants an opportunity to tell the people who answer they are wrong.

It's transparent, and is an example of a bad faith discussion.

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Re: Rightsizing 34th Ave for residents of the ave & for different times/seasons
« Reply #17 on: December 09, 2021, 09:27:02 AM »
Indeed, this forum post perfectly encapsulates the futility. OP didn't ask "Can anyone please answer why the ave is
closed when it is pitch black out at 7:00 on a cold night?" because OP really wanted an answer for why. OP already knows why. It's just that OP disagrees with the answer, and instead of wanting to come to some kind of understanding other people's POV on the subject, just wants an opportunity to tell the people who answer they are wrong.

It's transparent, and is an example of a bad faith discussion.

I am, however, curious if the OP really can't tell that everyone is fully aware of the OP's ploy.

We are, all of us, "online savvy" nowadays...even little kids are in 2021...and does the OP genuinely believe that these bad faith posts aren't fully transparent to everyone on the forum?

It is far more honest and honorable for the OP to simply say "I believe that the open street should revert to how it was" (Or whatever they believe)

Than to attempt to unsuccessfully lead folks down some rabbit-hole.

Maybe the future of online discussion is that folks will have learned not to argue...because it is pointless.
Much like we mostly know not to argue when we meet a random stranger on the street with a different opinion. (Unless we want to waste our time)

The internet is pretty new...so I figure eventually folks will evolve concerning our interactions on it. 

That being said...

I LOVE THE OPEN STREET of 34th Ave.





« Last Edit: December 09, 2021, 09:45:57 AM by abcdefghijk »

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Re: Rightsizing 34th Ave for residents of the ave & for different times/seasons
« Reply #18 on: December 09, 2021, 12:23:17 PM »
Hooray for following a post with a reply!

Years ago, on this forum I noticed something. That no-one ever changes their mind. Ever.  No matter how much debate or logic or persuasion by posters. I believe that in the history of the internet, not a single person has been swayed by the arguments of another poster.



I have to disagree.

Not everyone knows everything all the time. People can and do change their minds all the time. The key is in the presentation and reputation of the presenter.
I also channel Gladys Gilbert!

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Re: Rightsizing 34th Ave for residents of the ave & for different times/seasons
« Reply #19 on: December 09, 2021, 12:28:53 PM »
Hooray for following a post with a reply!

Years ago, on this forum I noticed something. That no-one ever changes their mind. Ever.  No matter how much debate or logic or persuasion by posters. I believe that in the history of the internet, not a single person has been swayed by the arguments of another poster.



I have to disagree.

Not everyone knows everything all the time. People can and do change their minds all the time. The key is in the presentation and reputation of the presenter.

You are free to disagree. But it's not my observation of folks' behavior on this forum.

Maybe in real life...that might be the case. Yes. Absolutely. But not online.

Online forums and chats etc... are a completely futile environment to get folks to change their minds.

That's what I have seen over the years on this forum. And posts elsewhere online.

I believe in the future folks will video themselves talking...and post the video...and then, possibly, yes folks may change their minds.

That'll be the next step for forums. WEB 3.0.

But here in WEB 2.0, online words alone are simply not enough...to alter folks' minds...IMO.

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Re: Rightsizing 34th Ave for residents of the ave & for different times/seasons
« Reply #20 on: December 09, 2021, 01:11:14 PM »
you are absolutely correct that no one ever changes their mind, nor does anyone ever admit to a misstep. you are the poster person for that truism. bravo/a.

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Re: Rightsizing 34th Ave for residents of the ave & for different times/seasons
« Reply #21 on: December 09, 2021, 02:15:00 PM »
you are absolutely correct that no one ever changes their mind, nor does anyone ever admit to a misstep. you are the poster person for that truism. bravo/a.

As Youtubers say, Haters are my Motivators.

We are coming to the end of the Forum, time for a truce.

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Also talking about missteps...here's a post of mine. Shock and horror!  An apology!

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« Reply #91 on: May 16, 2021, 09:27:24 PM »
Quote from: jh35 on May 16, 2021, 08:23:00 PM
Quote from: abcdefghijk on May 16, 2021, 07:40:30 PM

I did not mean to be abusive. I apologize if it was taken as such.

I am trying to think about this issue from both sides...and attempting to understand why it's so polarized.

Is it the polarized times we live in?

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Now, what were you saying about your own missteps again?
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Re: Rightsizing 34th Ave for residents of the ave & for different times/seasons
« Reply #22 on: December 09, 2021, 04:50:04 PM »
Calling for truces and still baiting people?
I also channel Gladys Gilbert!

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Re: Rightsizing 34th Ave for residents of the ave & for different times/seasons
« Reply #23 on: December 09, 2021, 04:59:58 PM »
Calling for truces and still baiting people?

Perhaps now might be the perfect time to truly invoke Gladys Gilbert.

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Re: Rightsizing 34th Ave for residents of the ave & for different times/seasons
« Reply #24 on: December 09, 2021, 05:07:03 PM »
since it's winding down, can you please point to one instance where you've changed your mind? do you still believe that we need to decommission LGA?

yes or no, please. not a 250 word smirk.

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Re: Rightsizing 34th Ave for residents of the ave & for different times/seasons
« Reply #25 on: December 09, 2021, 05:23:20 PM »
since it's winding down, can you please point to one instance where you've changed your mind? do you still believe that we need to decommission LGA?

yes or no, please. not a 250 word smirk.

Only when you admit the fact that true Marxism disallows the ownership of private property.

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Re: Rightsizing 34th Ave for residents of the ave & for different times/seasons
« Reply #26 on: December 09, 2021, 05:32:53 PM »
 As the OP, I've changed my mind plenty. Often issues are presented on this forum and other sources of news and info that do help one sift through the morass. On the particular topic here of the 34th Ave Open Streets, I do feel that facts from the DOT are useless and the many forums and meetings have been mostly a waste of time. The lack of knowledge of the particulars of the were appalling by DOT staff and Jason and others who are paid to smooth things over but not solve anything that is a particular annoyance. Not sure who is responsible but that's another thread. If the proposed idea about closing Northern Blvd to regular vehicular traffic as proposed by another elected goes anywhere, I hope there is a public forum in which to comment on that.

 As for changes, I do see some areas where the Open Streets are good as in the morning when the many schools on 34th Ave are inundated with students and parents and it is a zoo, much worse in bad weather too. This opening IS good and helpful. But the thirteen hours!! Just no because it's not needed and not used. It just isn't no matter how much people want to say otherwise and cameras posted (which the DOT hasn't done yet) would detail high/low traffic.

 For the tired residents of 34th ave and nearby streets, it's too much. For those who live a few blocks away who think it's swell, I like to ask what if they closed off your street and dogs peed and pooed everywhere and it became a hazard for less mobile residents and oh god, the dreaded motorized bikes...and they say "Oh my street couldn't close for this or that reason" or people wouldn't like that street to be closed...and so on. You don't hear a loud level of complaining much because most of the people adversely affected are weary, working class residents who feel the time they would take out of their lives to say their thoughts would be a waste of their time. The heavily networked folks - yes, me and Obama like saying folks - are the super loud voices here.
 
  The little guys are being overlooked and even though some think this is not true and that these comments are obviously biased, I stand by them and do think there is value in repeating the issues. Courage to speak your values is something we could use more of and I personally like a thoughtful debate. FYI two other topics were hotly debated here over the years that did change and one was the use of our many private co-op gardens (which are never counted in the green space debate btw) being available to use for children. And also the segregation of our public schools in JH which is awful for the being touted as such a diverse area, but not now, finally, a mom from IS145 is actively opening that debate again. So change might be slow but it happens.

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Re: Rightsizing 34th Ave for residents of the ave & for different times/seasons
« Reply #27 on: December 09, 2021, 09:10:35 PM »
Calling for truces and still baiting people?

Perhaps now might be the perfect time to truly invoke Gladys Gilbert.

I spoke to dear Gladys. She says she has far better things to do. But she did offer this:

ABCDEFGHIJK
An insult used in chatrooms and on Facebook.
A- amazing
B- beautiful
C- classy
D- darling
E- energetic
F- fantastic
G- great
H- hot
I- I'm
J- just
K- kidding
I also channel Gladys Gilbert!

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Re: Rightsizing 34th Ave for residents of the ave & for different times/seasons
« Reply #28 on: December 09, 2021, 09:53:14 PM »
I do feel that facts from the DOT are useless

21st century right there folks.

facts are useless. feelings are more important.

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Re: Rightsizing 34th Ave for residents of the ave & for different times/seasons
« Reply #29 on: December 09, 2021, 09:59:43 PM »
Great, so open streets is a Marxism thing?? Ugh... That explains a lot.